I don't use my profile on PlentyO'Freaks anymore, since that site is crammed full of strange guys who send horrifyingly insulting messages. Unfortunately, POF deletes your messages after a period of time so all the gems I was saving up to share with you ... are less than electronic dust, now. It's just as well.
Another reason I don't use POF is because of its lack of filters - more on that another time. But my profile does say how to find me on OkC, where I can happily pre-screen suitors based on their percentage matches. What this has meant, at times, is being persistently pursued on BOTH sites.
Sometimes I wonder if these guys are so intent on sending as many messages as possible, that they don't even realize that they've doubled up on the same girl. That was an unintended pun, but at the same time - you DO start to feel violated after someone repeatedly, insistently, messages you and visits your profile on not one, but TWO sites. I've had the same person contact me at least half a dozen times in total, maybe more. It's weird and unsettling.
We've discussed being creepily insistent in earlier posts, but this time I want to emphasize the need to KEEP TRACK. If you're juggling multiple profiles - as I imagine many of you are - watch out for bombarding the same girl with messages. When you do so, even accidentally, all she sees is 1) this guy is a stalker who can't catch a clue, or 2) this guy just sees a hot girl and messages her automatically. You come off as creepy, desperate, or both - not a good combination.
Related to this ... visiting a girl's profile over and over again in the hopes of sparking some interest or communication. While I have seen several men commit this mistake, there is one in particular who visits me at least once every three weeks - but has never even sent me a note. This is a type of persistence which is almost worse than the kind where you message, message, message until you're blue in the ... fingertips.
STOP DRY-HUMPING MY PROFILE!! Seriously, either get your shit together and send me a message, or fade away once and for all. I visited this one's profile a long time ago and decided I wasn't interested, at least not enough to be the first to send a message. If he'd at least ACTED, he'd have known where he stood. But he's given me the chance to see that either he's too shy to go after something he obviously wants, or that he's too forgetful to remember he's visited me at least ten times already. Either way, I'm even less interested than I was before.
Today's lesson, OkStupidman - if you're interested, message her. ONCE. If you've messaged her, REMEMBER. And if she's not responding, MOVE ON. There are plenty of fish in the quiver ... or something like that :)
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